Sexual Healing

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Hippies get a lot right about life. They don’t obsess over bathing (great for immunity!), stress little, eat real food, and have sex often. If the rest of us practiced these habits, we’d all likely be quite a bit healthier with less visits to the doctor.

Wait, what about sex?

Do you have a hormonal imbalance? Have sex. With regular sexual activity, testosterone and estrogen increase.

Do you suffer from Adrenal Fatigue? Have sex. The increase in oxytocin not only acts as a pain reliever, but it lowers cortisol… meaning you might also get a better night of sleep!

Do you get sick often? Have more sex. DHEA rises with each orgasm which translates to enhanced immunity, as well as improved cognition and skin health! In a study published in New Scientist, sexual activity 1-2 times per week was found to increase levels of IgA by 30% (1). IgA is our first line of defense against infectious agents such as the common cold and Flu.

Are you a man and worried about heart disease? Have sex often. As published in the American Journal of Cardiology, men reduce their risk of heart disease when they have sex at least 2 times per week (2).

Do you suffer from migraines or frequent headaches? Instead of reaching for your pills, have sex. Sex triggers the release of endorphins which reduces or eliminates pain. In a study done at the University of Munster, 60% of individuals with migraines reported improvement after sex (3).

Are you concerned with prostate cancer? Have a lot of sex. The National Cancer Institute in Bethesda, MD published a study showing men who ejaculated 21 times per month cut their chance of prostate cancer by over 30% (4).

Do you have issues with ovulating to get pregnant? Have more sex! Obviously if you want to get pregnant, you should have sex. But, an interesting study found that women who were sexually active actually increased their estrogen and luteal progesterone by having sex (5). Not only only did they boost the necessary hormones, but sporadic anovulation was rare (5).

There it is. Science proves that sex is good for our health, as if we needed science to tell us to have sex. But the getting into bed with your partner to have sex part is actually the difficult part for most people. I would feel like I’m sharing this information needlessly if I were to leave out a helpful hint on how to put it to use.

The majority of people who come to me with the desire to lose weight state their partner as one of their biggest reasons for wanting to shed weight. They want to lose weight so their partners will find them desirable and want to have sex with them. Now, I am not a marriage counselor by any stretch of the imagination, so I will simply repeat what I found written beautifully in my favorite marriage book. Paul David Tripp wrote in What Did You Expect,

The Sexual relationship is a barometer. The character and quality of the marriage relationship will determine the character and quality of their sexual union. You don’t leave disappointment and division at the bedside. You don’t escape misunderstanding and hurt simply because you are in another’s arms. Because, in this most intimate of human relationships, you are actually physically disrobed in the arms of another to whom you are offering your physical self, most if not all of the layers of self-protection are gone. You are in a place of exposure and vulnerability. This is what makes the sexual relationship so beautiful. You can be exposed and vulnerable in the arms of your lover and be unafraid, because you know he or she will care for you, and you know the result will be mutual satisfaction (6).

Basically, a weight loss goal is great. Having sex is important. However, the two aren’t as related as many might think. Have a great relationship, engage in sexual healing, and be healthier and happier!




  1. Diane Urbani (1999). Sex Can Boost The Immune System. New Scientist.
  2. Susan Hall, Rebecca Shackleton, Raymond Rosen, Andre Aravjo (2010). Sexual Activity. American Journal of Cardiology.
  3. Anke Hambach, Stefan Evers, Oliver Summ (2013). The Impact of Sexual Activity on Idiopathic Headaches. Cephalagia.
  4. Michael Leitzmann, Elizabeth Platz, Meir Stampfer (2004). Ejaculation Frequency. JAMA.
  5. Ankita Prasad, Sunni Mumford, Germaine Buck Louis, Katherine Ahrens, Lindsey Sjaarda, Karen Schiep (2014). Sexual Activity. US National Library of Medicine.
  6. Paul David Tripp (2010). What Did You Expect? Illinois: Crossway.




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